After a conversation with a friend and fellow lifelong traveler a few weeks ago on “belonging”, I reread Pema Chödrön’s quote: “As human beings, not only do we seek resolution, but we also feel that we deserve resolution. However, not only do we not deserve resolution, we suffer from resolution. We don’t deserve resolution; we deserve something better than that. We deserve our birthright, which is the middle way, an open state of mind that can relax with paradox and ambiguity”…
Now there’s a bold statement.
Resolution meaning being settled, having constancy in our lives. And isn’t this what we are all seeking? This constant state of peace, bliss and predictability in our lives? EXCEPT, there is no constancy in our lives. Every moment, situation, state of being is changing. Non-stop. The one consistency in our lives is change. And… we don’t like change. None of us do. So where do we take that?
Following Pema Chödrön’s and Eckhart Tolle’s philosophy means letting go of this desire for “permanency” c.q. “durability”. As indeed, we are desiring something that we can never have. Even the cells in our body change from one moment to the other. So, how can we achieve this state of peace and be content living the middle way? Relaxing with paradox and ambiguity? For me the answer is a daily mindfulness practice that teaches my brain to create a space between thoughts and actions. A space of resting and letting things be, instead of moving forward.
How about you?
While you read this blog, what is coming up for you?
How comfortable are you staying in the “not knowing”?
And the knowing that everything changes all the time and openness and acceptance is key?
What is your “go to” approach?