The victim persecutor rescuer attitude

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Going through life we often learn behavior that was conducive to us at one point in our life. A way to cope so to speak. However, we are often not aware that we never let go of these learned behaviors. They became us and they especially show up when the going gets tough.

While being under pressure, some people act like victims: “why does this always happen to me?”. Others prefer the role of persecutors: “if you don’t do X by Y, then…”. And again others jump to the rescue, barging in, offering advice or help without even being asked…

Do you recognize yourself in one of these?
If so, is this attitude still working for you?
If not, what do you need to stop doing c.q. start doing in order for things to move forward?