So, how royal are you?


Now that the world is getting ready to watch another Royal wedding, this might be a nice moment in time to look at royal behavior. What is it and could it serve us as well?

I was first introduced to the concept of “royal energy” during my training at Newfield. My dear coach at the beginning of that program introduced the metaphor “the dignity of a King or Queen” and the “stability of an oak tree” to me. As a former “people pleaser” that really spoke to me and I slowly but surely practiced and incorporated this way of being in my daily life.  

What is this metaphor about?
Within Newfield we claim that we see the world not as it is but as we are. And that there is a coherence between our physical appearance, our moods & emotions and our intellect. If we are in a nasty mood, this will also be reflected in the way we hold ourselves, the way we think and the way we speak, whether in silence or to other people.

Looking at the metaphor, adopting a “royal energy” means being more grounded. Think of an oak tree with its roots deep and long, really grounded, able to survive strong storms. Bringing it back to a King or Queen, the stance is straight and balanced, the eyes are slowly scanning the horizon, the breath is evenly paced. If we ground ourselves like this, we are much more resilient and able to face a crisis.
When we think of our emotions, this would mean adopting and practicing “dignity”, a truly royal way of being. A dignified person is able to say “yes” or “no” in a clear way. Able to set and hold boundaries. There is a commanding presence and people react to that.
And, in terms of our intellect, it would mean that we would know and say to ourselves “all will be okay”.

If this makes sense to you, how about being royal yourself tomorrow? And also bring this practice to your work or your relationships. If applicable of course.
See if it is easier to make requests like this. Or say no…